Is romance real or is it a figment of our own imagination? Romance is painted across the screen, written in novels, sung to beautiful melodies and penned in sonnets and poems. Is this an accurate picture of romance or an idealistic one?
Webster defines romance as a (1) : a medieval tale based on legend, chivalric love and adventure, or the supernatural (2) : a prose narrative treating imaginary characters involved in events remote in time or place and usually heroic, adventurous, or mysterious(3) : a love story especially in the form of a novel b : a class of such literature
2: something (as an extravagant story or account) that lacks basis in fact
3: an emotional attraction or aura belonging to an especially heroic era, adventure, or activity
4: love affair
In the context of romantic love relationships, romance usually implies an expression of one’s love, or one’s deep emotional desires to connect with another person.
So if romance is more than just a legend or a story and truly is a real experience, the question remains how do you make it happen?
It starts with that loving feeling, but the best accelerant to transform those initial feelings into romance is patience.
What? (insert a sound of screeching tires)
Are you kidding me? Patience causes romance? The idea itself may seem ludicrous. But waiting offers quite the platform for romance.
Romance is all about anticipation.
Anticipation of the moment that is helplessly romantic. If you have seen Anne of Green Gables and Anne of Avonlea, you know what I am referring to. You sit through eight hours to finally get the pay off that Gilbert and Anne fall in love. It is crazy but it is true. I mean, eight hours is quite a lot of waiting to see if these two will finally discover that they were meant for each other. Here is a little reminder of the struggle in a six-minute clip. Please excuse the music, but the visuals are perfect.
Romance is all about the process.
We all tend to get fixated towards the destination rather than enjoying the journey. Read this story about a couple married seventy-years, you will see that they found their romance in the process.
Have you ever watched an elderly couple eating breakfast together? A couple that sits there, eats slowly and barely talks to each other. I think Gordon and Norma were far from that picture. I believe that they honestly made an effort to keep the romance alive in their marriage over 72 years. Romance is not all about the passionate fire of youth. It is something that can be likened to a life investment that will pay dividends.
Romance is worth the wait.
We live in a day and age where our culture is more instant gratification rather than allowing room for anticipation. If the line is too long at our coffee shop, we will cross the street to get another latte. We will sacrifice the quality for the quantity. Quantity does not always make life better. When you are young an endless supply of candy would be like heaven. But that quantity would make that child sick to their stomach in spite of their all access pass. But think how much sweeter the “treat” is when it is truly a “treat”? If romance was a treat it would be more sweet after awaiting the right dessert rather than constant access to new relationships all for the sake of romance.
Maybe romance is linked to patience after all? You be the judge. Do you have a romantic story where it was worth the wait?